Can a substance abuser be the scapegoat for a family’s dysfunction?

One of the frustrating things about working with substance abuse is a scenario that appears to repeat itself.  There might be different people filling the necessary roles, but certain themes present themselves over and over again. For example, there’s usually someone filling a “hero” role, someone filling a “good cop” role and, the one I see within substance abuse treatment, someone filling a “scapegoat” role.

Often, families come to need the substance abuser to continue using.  While it may sound strange, it’s a pattern that I do see and I think it’s rooted in the fact that, while the substance abuser is actively abusing substances, the individuals within the family can focus their attention on the substance abuser and not on themselves.  The substance abuser can become the scapegoat, of sorts, for those families whose relationships are toxic.  That is, the substance abuser is seen as the problem within the…

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Take the Masks Off by EmJay 

Let Him love us where we are. We don’t have to have our lives together, don’t have to look a certain way, don’t have to drive a certain car, don’t have to own a house etc. All we have to do is let Him love us. Be authentic because He knows the true us anyways, amen. If you don’t like who you are, ask Him to change you for the best, for His glory. 
#belovable❤  #beyou 

#Lordgetusright #Hisgraceandlove

Bro. Marquis Johnson 

A Word From EmJay 

Her goods shouldn’t be on display. When a woman already has a husband  yet she still dress to arouse other men, is baffling to me. She has a husband that’s content with her looks, even the flaws, stretch marks, scars, dimples and all. He loves all of her regardless, compliments her, the whole 9. So why does she still need to seek attention from others? I’ve heard some excuses that the women want to look good for “themselves”. That’s vain thinking off top, a no no. Or they’re in a forever competition with other women. Why? Their husband has eyes only for her and he’s consistently expressed that. He’s truly not studying other women. These type of women have no legit excuse. She has a good husband that supports her physically, emotionally and mentally. He has to deal with all the other men gawking over what suppose to be solely seen with his eyes.  👀👀👀

Bro. Marquis Johnson