Month: March 2017

A guide for communicating with an addict about recovery

Gudie for helping assess reacovery readiness

After listening to so many families talk about their addict with anger and worry, I put together a flowchart that I feel can shortcut any Recovery-related communication process and minimize the anger that emerges from engaging in a conversation with an addict who’s still active within the addiction. Really, negative emotion fuels addiction and engaging an addict about recovery who isn’t ready is painful and frustrating. This chart may be able to help guide communication.

First off, this chart, like so many conversations with addicts, begins with emotion. The reality is that an addiction lives primarily through two (2) emotions: 1) Shame; and, 2) Anxiety. If an addict isn’t emotional, then there’s nothing upon which to act, as the addict is “stable” at that moment in time.

If the addict is emotional, then the number one attitude to look out for is humility. Without any doubt, an addict who’s readying…

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Want To Stay Out Of Trouble With Your Tongue?


Then consider three simple suggestions wise old Solomon makes from Proverbs 15:1.

1. Speak Gently

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1)

The sure way to ignite an already explosive situation is to respond to an angry person in like manner. The formula for assuaging anger is to answer in tenderness.

2. Speak Wisely

The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.” (Proverbs 15:2)

The wise person speaks with intelligence and skill to the issue at hand, while the fool emits the first thought that enters his head.

3. Speak Healingly

The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.” (Proverbs 15:4)

Solomon reminds us that the power of life and death lie with the tongue. By our kind words we can bring healing…

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A Word on Fear by Marquis Johnson

Psalm 34.4 says I sought (inquired of) the Lord and required Him [of necessity and on the authority of His Word], and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears. I’m pretty fearless but I know better than to think I’m totally fearless. Of course I began to ask God to show me my fears. He began to peel me open like a banana to expose my fear. The fear I will address is the fear of myself, I was afraid of me. He’s pulling up out of the last remnants of that smoke though. Thank You Jesus.

 2 Timothy 1.7 says for God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. So if I fear myself, does that mean that I don’t love myself or that I don’t have self-control? Questions my flesh conjures up on the sneak tip to get me to feel woe is me. Well I love myself because first I love Him. If I didn’t love myself I don’t think I would be putting myself in a position to be loved by Him, I wouldn’t diligently keep seeking Him and being obedient to Him. I chase after Him so I chase after love.

This self-fear has been trying to do what the first part of what Proverbs 29.25 states, laying of a snare. But God, but God reassures me you, you and you, everyone but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe. 

I woke up yesterday morning to a Brother Arnold sermon playing. I recall him saying something to the effect of God wants us to fly, to not just flap our wings from the pews and sit comfortably in our nests. You have to be fearless to do that right? Isaiah 41.31 says but they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. I want to fly; God wants His saints to fly bravely for His glory. We’re made to do more, He made us eagles not chickens that just sit on nests or walk around pecking at the dirt routinely. This self-fear wants me to be a chicken so it can wring my neck. Satan wants an 8 piece of Marquis for dinner. But no, God said I’m an eagle so self-fear must leave, it can’t stay, no vacancy, it ain’t gotta go home but it gotta get the heck up out of me.

When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. Psalm 56.3 states. I was afraid of being a worse old me. The worse old me times 2 or cubed. Can I say the thought of being the old me scared me into running to Jesus? The only good fear is fearing God. 

Romans 8.1 says therefore there is now no condemnation [no guilty verdict, no punishment] for those who are in Christ Jesus [who believe in Him as personal Lord and Savior]. More and more I’ve personalized my interaction with Jesus. He is my Father and my friend. This self-fear will be loosened up off of me fully. No guilt, no punishment.

Luke 10.19 says behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you. I have authority, you, we have authority against fear, my self-fear, your fears.

In conclusion, Jeremiah 1.19 says they will fight against you, but they will not [ultimately] prevail over you, for I am with you [always] to protect you and deliver you,” says the Lord. My self-fear, flesh, will fight against me but the devilnem will not prevail. God is with us, Immanuel , will protect me and deliver me even from myself. I will continue to hold onto His word. Love is the reason I tighten my grip 




Allow me to be quite frank here: All Hell has broken loose and it’s aim is for your children. Now, what are you going to do about it?

Satan is the temporary god of this world, remember, and you can believe that he has his hand in everything concerning it. Regardless of where your focus is, know that Satan’s focus is unrelenting. If his goal is to take down your children, where do you think he will orchestrate his deception and corruption? Well, of course you know about the traps he uses to ensnare them with drugs, alcohol and sexual immorality. Are you aware of his control of media, i.e. Hollywood (with its acclaimed indoctrination into all forms of witchcraft and the occult), music, advertising, fashion and video games. How about your children’s education? Did you know that Satan also goes to school?

Our schools today are programming our children…

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