After listening to so many families talk about their addict with anger and worry, I put together a flowchart that I feel can shortcut any Recovery-related communication process and minimize the anger that emerges from engaging in a conversation with an addict who’s still active within the addiction. Really, negative emotion fuels addiction and engaging an addict about recovery who isn’t ready is painful and frustrating. This chart may be able to help guide communication.
First off, this chart, like so many conversations with addicts, begins with emotion. The reality is that an addiction lives primarily through two (2) emotions: 1) Shame; and, 2) Anxiety. If an addict isn’t emotional, then there’s nothing upon which to act, as the addict is “stable” at that moment in time.
If the addict is emotional, then the number one attitude to look out for is humility. Without any doubt, an addict who’s readying…
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